On the second
night of our Picture Perfect series, Ryan dove into an area that plagues us
all- that moment an argument starts to surface with a family member. That
moment we can choose to hold our tongue, or we can choose to fire back. Here’s
a quick recap of what we discussed:
Session Two: Resolution
Bottom Line: In
every interaction you have with your family, you always have a decision to make
before you respond.
A verbal shot is
fired and our gut tells us to fire back. That word, that attitude from someone
else hurt us or made us mad, so we want to give some of that back. Been there?
How often do we quickly react to something a sibling or parent does or says in
a way that raises the level of tension and anger instead of diffusing it? But
there is another option! We can choose to stop the madness and think through
our words and actions. We can begin to see more clearly that when something
provokes us, we have a choice to make before we respond. We can be part of the
resolution instead of part of the problem.
Session Two Parent Cue: Take a recent
argument or “loud discussion” you had. Write down what prompted the
conversation, then write down each of your responses. Now backtrack and each of
you identify the decisions you made that prompted your responses. Maybe you
reacted to how something was said, or one word set you off. Maybe you responded
out of fear of what could happen.
It’s our hope that
through doing this you and your teen can begin to start a conversation rather
than an argument in future situations. Let us know how we can help- email us at
ryan@onechurch.tv or caitlin@onechurch.tv
